My navigation of life continues to be a juggle in the Hasmite Kingdom. A juggle of spending quality time with all kids, homeschooling my intense and sometimes aggressive little man, attending play dates where I barely understand what is being said, enduring constant illnesses as our little one gets used to the new bugs, raising our kids alone most days while Joel also juggles his hectic work life. Why am I here again? Yep, the honeymoon period of the expat has come to an end. It’s never nice when it does. Thought it would also be fun to throw in some low iron, low vitamin D and lazy thyroid, why not? I must admit though, life is tough enough without that level of exhaustion, but throw in those extra things and I was EXHAUSTED! It’s nice now that the fog has lifted and I have some bounce in my stride.
Another thing that eats away at me, or keeps me humble really, is the fact of having a kid with extra needs thrown into the mix. Even though my head knows these kids need different approaches when it comes to teaching, guiding and disciplining them, I still can’t help but feel like a failure. It’s an unhealthy way to be, I know, but a perfectionist can’t help it. When you have a kid with oppositional defiance tendencies, you can’t help but think maybe this is happening because Im not being strict or consistent enough. These thoughts smash me everyday. Thank goodness for God’s grace and strategies. After a LONG time, I’ve come back to His feet, smashed and humble, but ready to be carried. Nothing like the ouchiness of humility, but the freedom and strength in God is so refreshing. As I type this, I can say all my kids have taught me SO much about love, grace, patience and humility. I’ve also learnt so far, so much about parenting a child with extra needs, so I know one day I will be able to hopefully help others that have children with special needs on a more personal level. Hmmm, I guess this is the thing I lack too. We have a diagnosis and some medication waved in our face, but then left to our own devices. I’m madly reading most days trying to work out how to teach our kid the executive function skills he is missing, not really having a clue of what I’m doing. Anyway, I’m sure God will use all of this that I’m learning now for my own family but others too.
Jordan can be a challenging place to break into and make friends with the locals. The locals have big families which consume most of their social life. One of the ways for my kids to feel at home is of course by making friends. So, I decided to invite the mothers and kids from my son’s class (in a local Arabic school) over to play. Play dates are not something they do a lot of here, so the mothers were super excited by the idea. We had about 8 come and all up about 20 kids. It was awesome. A challenge for me with my little bit of Arabic that I have, and hosting in a respectful way (they have lots of customs I had to remember), but it was fun. The mothers liked it so much that we’ve started a Whatsapp play date group for my son’s class. This is great. We meet often to play. Tick!
My heart continues to break for our neighbours across the bridge in Palestine (and the nice Israelis who want peace). It’s sad to see this place in so much trouble but inevitable if you continue to try and solve problems by killing people or oppressing people even more, and not allowing some mothers access to attend their childrens funerals. How inhumane can you be?!
Anyway, my life continues to be full, hectic, reflective and enjoyable in a funny kind of way.